Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Postpartum Depression

Its almost impossible to admit when you need help for mental illness. Its so stigmatized and even looked down upon in our society.
But last week I got up the courage and told my doctor that I needed help. I had reached a point where I was afraid of the thoughts that would intrude into my mind when dealing with stressful situations. Details aren't important but I will tell you that they shocked me and made me put Natalia in her crib and sit on the porch out of fear.
I was afraid that my doctor would report me to CPS and they would take Natalia, but in reality he wanted to help me. He was quick to understand that I needed the help I was seeking and started me on an anti-depressant and referred me to a counselor. My doctor praised me for my courage and told me that it took an exceptional person to come forward with my fears. I new it took a little courage but the fact that most new mother's never come forward is sad.
Within days of starting the anti-depressant I felt incredible. It didn't make me happy, it didn't make me numb, it helped me feel balanced and it gave me hope that those awful thoughts were a chemical imbalance and not my true feelings popping up. The metallic taste in my mouth faded and my outlook on the world continued to improve.
I would never ever hurt my baby girl. She is my world and I would die for her, but wonky chemicals in my brain made me resent her. I'm glad that I sought help and encourage new mom's to seek help even if they may not need or want an anti-depressant. Counseling has helped immensely also.
I was so ashamed when I started fearing my own thoughts and confided in David that I thought I needed help. With his encouragement I was able to talk to my doctor. Accepting attitudes and offering help instead of shame is the key to helping women with postpartum depression. 

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